Self-Encouragement Rather Than Self-Help

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Most people could use self-encouragement over self-help

A lot of people get frustrated with all the notions of self-help. In time, it goes from the simple idea that you are capable of working on your inner being and its depths to an all-encompassing do-or-die expectation.

I am taking a new approach. You know how you can help yourself. You don’t need me to beat you over the head with it. Instead, I am offering encouragement.

You, your self, and getting help

There are some important factors to take into consideration when it comes to you and your state of being. These include:

• You are the only one inside your head, heart, and soul
• The only person who can think and feel for you is you
• If you do not desire help – you won’t accept or take help
• Help only offers suggestions. You decide how to use them – or not
• You have ultimate control of your emotions

Many aspects of our society tell you an intangible something out there is the key to solving anything. When you feel lonely, find a friend or lover. If you feel empty, look for something outside of yourself to fill the void. When you are in a bad situation, don’t be accountable – blame someone/something else.

The idea of self-help is literal. You are the only one who can, ultimately, be – and help – you. Nobody else is in your head, heart, or soul – no matter how much you might give them access.

Encouragement to help yourself

Instead of harping on the idea of self-help to help yourself, I am beginning to apply a new idea. Encouragement.

Given that I cannot, ultimately, help you – all I can do is offer encouragement. That can come in many forms – from basic cheerleading to asking leading questions to offering ideas that you may – or may not – apply.

Self-encouragement is active

The idea of help tends to be passive. You get suggestions and ideas that are flabby, lacking in applicability, vague, and infuriating. Encouragement, on the other hand, is active.

Help is to try. Encouragement is to do. Thus, in the words of Yoda,

“Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”

While I can offer encouragement – self-encouragement you give to yourself.

I believe in you – whoever you are and whatever you are doing!

Closing:

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